crazy cousin

as watching the show about girls shopping for the best weeding dress so My mind was all in thinking about my wedding dress debacle so i was getting ready to blog about it when she calls to ask my opinion about what she should do about the crazy cousin.
this cousin is a woman in her 50's her own family will not associate with anymore because she is a metal case--somedays i think she plays it, which is why I no longer associate with her. but she loves the thrill of "rescuing" plus it gives her more to complain about, plus if we have so family type thing the cousin ALWAYS has a break down or need major Dr visit or test or treatment that needs to be driven or hand holding or whatever to get the attention and the family things is cancelled. this is ok but also frustration because she always calls me for advice but i always say the same thing "let her take care of herself" but as always she does not listen to me and goes and does anyway. this time i listened (with the phone held out so i could hear her but didnt have to listen, my advice this time "do what you know you are going to do and go take care of cousin. Oh but this time she is not going to be drawn into cousin craziness. This time its cousin's youngest son has come to live with her and blind boyfriend (whom she is with because he has large income and he lets her spend it all as long as she takes care of him-he has not accepted that he is blind and learn how to live as a blind person) anyway the son is later 40's but he has never done anything in his life as far as work or life or doing anything that requires him to get off the couch. he was raise by his grandparents because crazy cousin could not take care of kids even when she was living with someone that could help. anyway, all he does is sit on the couch and asking her to cook for him. well the cousin is now near a nervous "break down"-meaning he wont give her money and takes hers to feed him. i know this sounds crazy and does not make sense but that is my family-did i mention that i do not associate with her and hers.anyway, so the phone call to me was all about getting me to get upset and angry and playing the game she always plays with me-get me upset and TELLING her how to handle it if she really does not want to get involved but i am trying to learn not to get pulled in because all it does is get me upset and then she goes and  does it and then have lots to complain about after, even though she says she will not. i feel its a game they both play and it works for them. oh well back to my life and my craziness.