online dating

the computer is one of the greatest invention.
the Internet makes the world a smaller place, we are able to keep in touch with others by quick emails rather than taking the time to write long letters. We can meet people from all over the world and it takes seconds to make contact.

When my children started using the Internet to chat with each other I was not too worried about it because i raised smart girls that knew to be cautious. And if they did not listen when i told them not to chat with strangers ect. they had to learn on their own. My oldest did not listen and one night she must have been gotten exposed to someone that might have been more than she could handle because she was very cautious and worried and would not let anyone else 'chat'.

Then my friend wanted to set me up with her boyfriends best friend. but we were not able to get together for a meal for several weeks. he suggested that we IM to get to know each other a little bit before. this was ok but i noticed that he was opinionated and not open to other views. but i kept thinking it was one of those little flaws that could be over looked. We finally met and there was no spark at all. no attraction and he was not the person that he portrayed himself. I stayed but i wanted to get out of there as quick as i could. we still chat sometimes, he is a sometime hi friend,but that was my experience with chatting on the Internet. then when my youngest was chatting from the time she got home to all hours of night. i became concerned when i realized that she was chatting with people all over, so i thought it was time to see what it was that she was doing and what she was exposed to---i am not one to believe gossip or every negative reporter story. So I started go on line and went into chat rooms. I would go into a room and it would be few seconds and i would have so many IM requests I could not keep up with them. I would use this to have open talk with my daughter which showed me that she was being safe when she warned me about what to stay away from. I realized that this was a form of communication that was not to be taken seriously it was entertainment, it was a way to "talk" with others. at first i was confused that I was meeting and getting to know people but it turned out that this was a form of adult entertainment. guys just wanted to talk once or a few times but it was never any kind of friendships that lasted.  it was fun at first and gave me some adult conversation. So after 2 months i was bored with it. so I was done with aol chat but one last time i went into yahoo chat and again it took moments to have a large selection of IM's offered. I tried to talk to each but each one would say something i didnt like so i would block them. I got it down to one, he seemed to be someone that wanted to get to know me the person. so we kept chatting. I had a few more Weeks of work from surgery so we spent hours talking.
While in the past i did not feel love or lust or attraction i felt that it was time to find a man that i could have companionship for the later days of our lives. I knew I should have ended it weeks later when he finally sent picture.we talked for 3 months, I should have ended it when he got off the plane, i should have ended it before the hotel, but i was wanting to fit what i thought i needed. 4 years later i had to end it which was hard. In the past i would have let my guilt get back into the relationship, it was a bit easier because i joined a dating website ( has replaced aol chat rooms) right off i go several responses and one guy stood out. he seemed perfect-he was a bit judgemental and negative but i could overlook them but he became too pushy. one of the things he wanted to change was he wanted to stop jumping into relationship with someone and 2 months later he looked at her and said 'who is she and why am i with her' so he wanted me to make it slow and get to know each other. We talked for less than a month and he was insisting that we meet and when i didnt he became less perfect. he had started out saying that he was not someone that would call daily. from the first he called/texted while he drove to work, on his lunch,,every chance he got. He even found songs that showed how much i meant to him. I miss him but it is hard. months later i googled i found out that his mother had pasted and since we had talked about her and the things he did for her, so i called him to give him my sympathies, He was surprised but he kept talking and talking finally he told me that he was involved with someone he met online and it was going good--they saw each other every so often.

after a few months i went onto the "dating websites" i met a lot of con men, the Internet had turned out to be a way for con men to try to get women to fall for them and then get into a situation and ask me to send them money. I did meet a couple of men but they were losers too. so I stopped. I do have one friend that lives there and comes here a month a couple times a year. its nice he is fun but again he is judgemental and does not listen to other ideas because his way is the only way, plus he is very noisy

. to be continued